When a man takes to the road in search of a lady, he is certainly looking for someone who is social and lively. Before the first date, he would probably be expecting her to answer calls and share much about whom she really is, what she likes and or whether she prefers watching movies to sleeping. Most men are always looking for extroverts.
But wait, we all have one lady we betrothed but turned us down. She was not just talking! She could not answer calls or when she did, she hardly induced a discussion. She hardly went out with you or when she did, you could not easily tell her feelings. You were always wondering whether she is really normal. Now, your crush was an introvert! If you ever thought that she turned you down because you have a baldhead, no, you did not find the best of her side. Here is how to treat an introvert lady.
Give her more time alone
Introverts do not easily mingle with people or any person so easily. It takes them time to learn how to get along with you. If you are going to be an omnipresent friend, she will definitely avoid you.
Do not demand a conversation from her.
One common characteristic is that they are less spoken. They think much about what they want to say and sometimes they may not even say it. So, don’t go pestering her with many words. In fact, you should be glad if she can involve you for ten minutes.
Do not draw her into a crowd.
One of your normal ways of getting into an extrovert may be to invite her for dinner or to your birthday party. Your introvert crush will turn you down on this. They do not find fun in hanging around so many strangers. If it is your birthday party, assure her that you are alone and keep her bemused with some mind boggling movies. She may sacrifice to go out with you but she is not ready to meet ‘people’.
Do not introduce her to so many activities
Introverts find it satisfying to do one thing often than to do different things all the time. If you realize that she likes watching complicated movies (which they really do), do not distract her by suggesting swimming, travelling or any other thing that works for other ladies. Instead, find a way of getting interested in what she likes.
Remain an extrovert.
To get into her inner circles, you will have to live her life but yourself, remain the extrovert that you are. Research has proved that introverts like hanging around extroverts because they (extroverts) are cheerful. She admires you, only that she cannot live like you. So, do not disappoint her by being another introvert in her life.
Like Shakespeare says, ‘a young man, at the touch of love, becomes a poet; do not perform your poem blindly to an introvert. She is certainly the best person to have for the future but it all depends on how you treat her. Greatest of all, learn to understand her. She will soon yield.
from
http://www.peakofman.com/2017/02/23/treat-her-well-she-is-an-introvert/
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