NO MORE COLD WAR BETWEEN WIFE AND MOTHER – SIMPLE WAY HOW TO

Mothers (most) have a tendency to continue ‘mothering’ even when you are married. For her you continue to be the little boy she’s diligently brought up and you are likely to reciprocate the love and care. The problem is that too much of this and less of the same towards your wife may rouse envy, which is often the start of problems. The rest depends on your action and their personalities

1. Loving Both Necessary But Never Enough

While it may seem an easy thing to do to fix the problem by just loving both of them equally, it’s not that easy. The problem here is that your wife wants to be sure she’s the number one but either knowingly or otherwise your mum is making her feel inferior by constantly showing her that she is yet to be worthy of you. Besides loving both of them equally, you will need to do a lot more.

1. Communication Between Wife and Mother

Depending on the personality of both your wife and mother, they could either openly solve their issues but among themselves or let you in as a third party. If they’re both averagely exposed they are likely going to do this among themselves. Engage them to check if everything is ok and if not offer to mediate. There is nowhere else you’ll need as much wisdom. Always keep an open mind

1. Frequently Give Mommy a Surprise Visit

If you are the type who would rather built an empire on a no-go island then this is not for you. It is important to pay mother a couple of visits, once or twice a year, and of course with your wife. The day she shows up at your house unannounced that is your cue she feels excluded from your life. The blame is on your wife of course. Why the h* is this b*ch keeping my son all for herself?

1. Delicately Ask Your Wife to Compromise

This is actually very delicate because the first question is “why me?” why do I have to be the one to always compromise? This is it. Being the older one of all of you, mother deserves a little more respect. Unless she is overdoing whatever it is that is the bone of contention or overstepping, she needs a little more respect and you will both need to show some courtesy but that is just it. Again this goes back to proper communication. Do not lecture her about this. Just make her understand.          

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How to tell if you are Satisfying Your Woman in Bed

There is a question that every man who has ever slept with a woman asks themselves sometimes; am I satisfying my woman in bed? This age old question is not a very easy one to answer. Some men believe that when you hold your orgasm and go on for a long time then you are pleasing your woman in bed. If you are one of those men, sorry to disappoint you, it takes a lot more than that for your woman to be pleased. Any man who looks at sex as being separate from the broader relationship is making a mistake. You have to look at it as a component of the whole relationship.

Relationship experts will tell you that a woman who is satisfied in bed will show by being free to do as she pleases in bed. She does not have any inhibitions. When she is able to tell you exactly what she wants, you know you are doing something right. Since you are pleasing her, she also wants to please you.

While it used to be common in many cultures that it was the man who initiated sex, this is changing slowly. Women who are satisfied in bed are not afraid to initiate sex when they want it. If you see your woman reluctant to indicate that she wants sex, this may be an indication that she is saying, “what’s the difference”, because whether you have sex or you do not, it’s the same to her.

According to Jenifer Benjamin, in her article Is She Really Satisfied in Bed other signs that you are doing it right include breathing fast while you are in the act even if it is slight. This is coupled with the chest and neck area becoming flushed, legs flexing, toes curling, the back arching and the pelvis is moving in a deep and rhythmic manner.

You should be happy if, during sex, she starts saying things that do not make sense. Jenifer Benjamin says that this indicates she is entirely held up in the sensation. Be careful if she says words that make sense right through, she may just be pretending to be happy to make you feel better. If she is enjoying, she will tell you. If she never does, this could be another indication that she is not.

Whatever you do, remember that trying to be good in bed alone will never satisfy your woman. Create conditions in your relationship that will make your woman want you. Be affectionate and involve in foreplay before having sex. Touch her and kiss her unexpectedly and above all, treat her like your best friend. Strive to have a body that she looks at and craves.

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HOW TO OVERCOME EMOTIONAL AND RELATIONAL BARRIERS TO A GOOD RELATIONSHIP

You’ll often find a lady saying she thinks the partner is cheating because he’s suddenly improved his game in bed or your own partner resisting your intent to help out in the kitchen because she thinks you’re either not being sincere or rather trying to undermining her. Why does this happen?

The truth is that relationships ride on a subtle principle of a “give and take” and the same affects sex life. These could be compliments, encouragement and support among other little benefits we gain in loving relationships. The problem is that we are yet to learn how to receive such benefits.

While it doesn’t seem the obvious, each time we criticize a partner for not doing something right, not doing it on time, or not doing whatever it is they’re doing right often enough, our relationship is affected and greatly so is the sex. But these are often part of much deeper barriers to great sex.

For some of us growing up wasn’t easy. Our parents often rejected us or criticized everything we did. Some of us on the other hand have gone through a lot in previous relationships that we find it difficult trusting others, including partners. We may forget these things but soon they catch up.

Over time, our reaction to such emotional and relational realities is that we build defenses – That we no longer accept love as genuine, we don’t value it, we think we don’t deserve true love, and we don’t even want to let others show us care – that we reject love because we think it’s survival.

The good news is that there’s a chance for you to experience a better relationship and even great sex with your partner whether you are the victim of such emotional problems or she is. The first thing to do is determine how much of your past affects your current relationship. The other thing you’ll do is discuss the same with your partner and learn to show love so the other does the same.

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Treat Her Well, She Is an Introvert

When a man takes to the road in search of a lady, he is certainly looking for someone who is social and lively. Before the first date, he would probably be expecting her to answer calls and share much about whom she really is, what she likes and or whether she prefers watching movies to sleeping. Most men are always looking for extroverts.

But wait, we all have one lady we betrothed but turned us down. She was not just talking! She could not answer calls or when she did, she hardly induced a discussion. She hardly went out with you or when she did, you could not easily tell her feelings. You were always wondering whether she is really normal. Now, your crush was an introvert! If you ever thought that she turned you down because you have a baldhead, no, you did not find the best of her side. Here is how to treat an introvert lady.

Give her more time alone

Introverts do not easily mingle with people or any person so easily. It takes them time to learn how to get along with you. If you are going to be an omnipresent friend, she will definitely avoid you.

Do not demand a conversation from her.

One common characteristic is that they are less spoken. They think much about what they want to say and sometimes they may not even say it. So, don’t go pestering her with many words. In fact, you should be glad if she can involve you for ten minutes.

Do not draw her into a crowd.

One of your normal ways of getting into an extrovert may be to invite her for dinner or to your birthday party. Your introvert crush will turn you down on this. They do not find fun in hanging around so many strangers. If it is your birthday party, assure her that you are alone and keep her bemused with some mind boggling movies. She may sacrifice to go out with you but she is not ready to meet ‘people’.

Do not introduce her to so many activities

Introverts find it satisfying to do one thing often than to do different things all the time. If you realize that she likes watching complicated movies (which they really do), do not distract her by suggesting swimming, travelling or any other thing that works for other ladies. Instead, find a way of getting interested in what she likes.

Remain an extrovert.

To get into her inner circles, you will have to live her life but yourself, remain the extrovert that you are. Research has proved that introverts like hanging around extroverts because they (extroverts) are cheerful. She admires you, only that she cannot live like you. So, do not disappoint her by being another introvert in her life.

Like Shakespeare says, ‘a young man, at the touch of love, becomes a poet; do not perform your poem blindly to an introvert. She is certainly the best person to have for the future but it all depends on how you treat her. Greatest of all, learn to understand her. She will soon yield.

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Ways to Make Extra Cash on the Internet

The internet of things has made it possible for anyone with skills to make extra cash, whether on a full-time basis or a part-time basis while still keeping a regular job. However, anyone planning to do any work on the internet must watch out for some schemes which should not be touched, even with a ten-foot stick.

Schemes to avoid

The internet is filled with unscrupulous individuals whose main aim is to lure unsuspecting people and then dupe them out of their money. If anyone asks you to pay so that you can get a chance to sell their products for them, walk away. Then there are those training books and CDs that tell you if you buy them you will learn an exclusive trick about how to get rich quickly. Some fraudsters on the internet will promise you that you will get rich overnight or make money from doing nothing. They even show testimonials from people who invested US$300 and in the next hour made US$3000 or something like that. If an offer sounds too good to be true, you must walk in the other direction.

Legitimate ways of making money

Freelance writing. Freelance writing has become a very common way of making money in the age of the internet. Many organizations and individuals have started noticing that outsourcing work does not only reduce costs, it makes available a large pool of talent that would otherwise not have been available in the closed confines of a company.

The Uber network. This concept has now spread to many countries across the world. If you have a smartphone and a car that qualifies, you can lodge an application in your country of residence and make some extra cash driving your own car.

Use your skills to consult. If you are a professional, you can use your skills to consult. Many people are looking for online teachers, lawyers, or accountants to help them online.

Turn your home into a hotel. The Airbnb concept has become one of the most successful websites where people can list their homes for tourists to stay while they are on holiday. You can select the people you accept to your home when they apply to stay with you.

Be a broker. You can buy and sell goods using sites such as eBay . The good thing about sites such as this one is that payments are protected by such platforms as PayPal.

Cook meals for others. A concept known as Wazupa is becoming the new rage in town. If you are a good cook, you can register on the platform. When someone orders food near you, the app will let you know where this person is and after you cook the food you can deliver it and payment will be made from the credit card of the person who makes the order.

There are certain advantages that come with working on the internet which depend on a person’s personality. If you are struggling to get a job, this may be something you may want to try.

 

 

 

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HOW TO GROW YOUR CREDIT SCORE FAST

Credit scores mean quite a lot in life. Creditors have their own criteria for establishing one’s financial worth and ability to pay up. To qualify for higher credit, loans, and mortgages, it’s important to keep up your credit score; it’s always best to maintain yours slightly above 720.

But in case you are still young with little credit history or for some reason your FICO score is below the 700 mark, and are wondering how to grow it, here’re eight simple but modest tricks.

1. Check Your Credit Report

This should be your first step. Besides giving you a chance to see your credit score, the report will also let you in on the reason why it is low. And from it you’ll have rough idea what to do.

1. Rectify Erroneous Information

From your credit report, you’ll be able to spot any errors if any. It is possible they are the reason behind your low FICo score. You can dispute such errors through any of the three credit bureaus.

1. Negotiate For A Raise

Perhaps you had a good credit history until you stopped paying your bills on time when you lost your job. You can as well ask your creditor to erase your debt or default as long as you can pay.

What you can do is write a letter with a request to your creditor to eliminate the bad report and a commitment to pay the remaining balance. You can also seek a notice of “good will adjustment”.

1. Check Your Credit Limits

Again, from your credit report, look up at your credit limits and ensure they are the most current. It shouldn’t seem you are maxing your card every month. Ensure any adjustments are indicated.

1. Get a Credit Card

The essence of owning a credit card is to use it responsibly. Having more than one will certainly do your credit score some good. If you can’t get a customary credit card apply for a secured one.

You may have to give away some few hundred dollars the creditor can use as collateral. Secured cards usually have an allowance to extend credit provided you’ve been responsible for 6 months.

Other strategies include under-using your credit cards, processing your loans quickly, and paying your bills on time. You are likely to raise your score even faster if you become more responsible with your credit cards. For purposes of emphasis, nothing changes without the appropriate action

 

 

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How to Calculate Your Net Worth

Do you always hear about these rich billionaires and what their net worth is but you are left wondering what this is or what your own net worth is? While there are a number software programs that can help you determine your net worth, you can still calculate this physically. But you will need to know what you are talking about first.

Defining Net Worth

So what is net worth? The short answer is that your net worth is the value of everything you own when you take out what you owe.  The net worth is determined by looking at your assets and debts. The assets include the portion of your home which you have already paid for, cars, cash in the bank or any investments you hold in the form of shares and bonds. When you calculate your net worth, you cannot include liabilities. These are what you still owe on the assets you have including the loan for your car, the mortgage for the house and any credit cards you are using.

List all your assets

To calculate your true net worth, start by making a full list of all your assets. In this list, include your cars, home, bonds you hold, stock holdings, businesses where you own shares. Many people would rather have a point where they stop including things. You may want to say you will not include anything less valuable than say your car. You must place a value on each of the assets you have listed. Once everything has been listed, it’s time to add up the numbers.

List all your debts

Now it’s time to list what you owe. In this list, include all your balances on your credit card and personal loans. Do not forget to include any student loans, the loan on your car, your furniture. Do not leave any debt, no matter how small it looks. When you add together all the small debt, you can discover that it becomes a big chunk of money. Once everything has been listed, add together and get a total.

Subtract and decide what your worth is

Once you have the two numbers, subtract your debts from your assets. The number you get is your net worth. There is no need to panic if this number comes back negative. This usually happens to young people who still haven’t earned enough money to start reducing their debt. At other times this may be an indication that you are over borrowed.   The fastest way to increase your net worth is by reducing your debt drastically while adding to your assets list.

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FORGET QUICK FIX SOLUTIONS OUT THERE, REAL FITNESS BEGINS HERE

It’s almost end of the first month  and the festivities are here. What will happen of course you can tell. You are likely to gain a little more weight and it’s a problem because you would remember you set out to shed off a figure by now but that’s fine because real fitness begins here. Here’re five tips for you:

 

1. A Balanced Nutrition Plan

 

While there are quick fix solutions out there, some of them are nothing more than tricks. It’s also important to know that keeping healthy is a very personal concern. However, to achieve an ideal body weight, you need to find the balance between burning calories and daily body energy need.

 

1. A Balanced Exercise Regime

While limited calorie intake is the primary focus of a healthy nutrition plan, it does not mean that you completely avoid foods with calories. A healthy nutrition plan includes regular workouts that help burn the excess calorie. The merits of regular workout are vast and sure worth commitment.

1. Find Pleasure in Workouts

 

Ideally a healthy exercise regime should make you feel good. It doesn’t have to be this thing you dread or struggle with to the point of injury. Usually the more you follow a regime you don’t like or find pleasure in, the more you’re bound to fail in it. Always adjust until you find pleasure in it.

 

1. Don’t Weigh Yourself Down

 

The other thing you would find necessary is to check your progress regularly but while at it, it’s important to take it easy. Also you would find it very normal to weigh yourself often but surely you don’t have to do this every day. The problem with this is that the body can easily self-sabotage.

 

 

 

e)     Keep it Positive Mentally

You must already know this, that the need to achieve a certain body weight actually begins and exists in the mind and that it all starts there. This is why it’s important to listen to your mind but not allow it to always criticize your progress. Like an athlete, you need to believe and work hard.

 

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Dressing Tips for Men Attending an Interview

The biggest mistake any man attending an interview can make is to think that anything goes. It is true that men’s fashion changes slowly but it would be fatal to ignore that changes. When dressing for an interview, there are a few things you need to consider. For example, what level is the job you are applying for? What is the job description? Have you just left college or have you been working for half your adult life? These and a few other questions will help you to decide how to dress for your interview. The tips here are suggested by Lois Fenton writing for Monster.

Selecting the suit

According to Lois, if you are applying for a high-level position you will need to have a minimum of two suits. The advice is to avoid a double breasted suit because it’s just old and the single breasted is more current. You will just need to ensure that you do not overdress in such a way that you end up looking better than the person who is interviewing you. They do not like anyone who takes the shine away from them. Just remember to get the suit to the dry cleaner before the interview so that it looks well pressed when you put it on and it smells fresh. Navy and deep gray suits are great to wear for interviews. Just avoid a black or tan suit; they are only appropriate if you’re looking for a job in the television or glamor industry.

Blazers and sports jackets are too casual

Avoid a blazer or a sports jacket as it may be construed as if you are not taking the interview seriously.  However, a blazer can be great for someone looking for a job in academia where people are generally not expected to arrive at work in suits. Even in such a case, you will still need to stick to something traditional such as gray, navy and blue in your colors. Dressing casually is not really a license to show off how radical you are. You will get a chance to do this once you get the job.

Choosing your shirt and accessories

Lois advises that for the first interview you should arrive in a white shirt with a simple shirt collar. The shirt should be 100% cotton and blends should be avoided like the plague. If you do not have a white shirt which is crisp enough, then investing time in buying a new white shirt may be a good idea. Since a tie is the first thing that someone looks at when they look at a man, you need to invest enough time selecting the right tie. If all you have are those loud and dramatic ones, then you may want to go and get yourself a new tie with just one color, a neat pattern, or something classic.

Add to the accessories above a great pair of shoes. Something professional like a black lace-up. Shine your shoes well ahead of the interview. Whatever you are putting on, your socks should be black and they should cover your ankles. Remember to clean your nails and go to a good barber ahead of your interview.

 

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Do You Have a Sex Addiction?

When this topic of sex addiction is raised, many men actually ask, can sex be addictive? The answer is yes and there are several signs that can indicate that an individual is addicted to sex. Brian Whitney identifies some signs you should watch out for.

When you live a double life

According to Brian, the moment when you start to live a double life which involves cheating on your girlfriend or wife you should know that the problem is about to begin. The cheating starts to involve lying about how you spend your money when you actually spend the money buying sex or being involved in some form of sexual activity.

When it comes to sex, you do not care about others

To be a sex addict, you do not have to be a bad and evil person. You can be a great father to your children. A great employee to your boss or even the person that your community relies on. However, when it comes to sex, you care about nobody else but yourself. You can sleep with a person and not care what happens to them once you have got what you want. You start to see women simply as objects, available for you to use. When you become a sex addict you will do whatever it takes to have sex with a woman, even if it means manipulating them.

Thoughts of sex take over your mind

Are you always either thinking about sex, planning your next sexual encounter or actually having sex? If the answer to this question is a yes, then you are moving in the direction of sex addiction. This leads to a situation where you are no longer in control. You will have sex anywhere, whether it’s your office, in your car at the local park or downstairs with the maid in your house while your wife is sleeping upstairs. Even if you know the dire consequences of your behavior, you just no longer care.

When sex destroys your relationships

You have come to accept that every one of your relationships will end because of some action you have done which is related to sex. In the beginning, you will be able to hide this from your partner but she will soon start to realize that something is not right. Then your relationship will break down, but you do not learn a lesson, you still do the same in the next.

You cannot control your masturbation

Masturbation on its own is not unhealthy. It becomes an issue when you do it at every chance you get. “Every chance” means exactly that; you do it after waking up, while you take a bath, when you get to your office, during the tea break and soon after your next meeting. Yes, people with a sex addiction do this.

There are many more signs which can indicate that you have a sex addiction such as when you are unable to stop having sex all the time even if you wanted. When you start to hate yourself because of your sexual life, it is time to seek professional help.

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5 ALTERNATIVE PHYSICAL HEALTH PRACTICES TO TRY BEFORE END YEAR

Lift, walk and or run around. Dance, stretch, and repeat. I am tempted to think this is your typical physical health routine but hey, think about it. Isn’t this getting a little boring, more like the same old story; pavements, gym center, hills and meals? Now, why don’t you try something different? The following are some of the best alternative physical health routines you could try by end year.
a) Yoga
Most yoga retreat balis involve light exercises such as silent mindful walks, bike rides and some surfing depending on your location. This blend of exercises is sure to keep you active throughout your day, reduce level stress in you as well as better your sleep at night. Unknown to you, these light yoga health retreat bali activities also increase the production of the “feel good,” hormones.
b) Surfing
Like yoga, surfing has a number of health benefits. It helps develop the upper and lower body. It also increases your physical and muscles strength. It improves your flexibility and balance. Also, regular paddling provides great cardio workout. Other than physical health and related benefits, participating in surfing routines can also help you learn a lot about stress and how to deal with it.
c) Swimming
Unlike activities such as walking or running, you may not strengthen your bones or burn as many kilojuoles as you would with typical exercise routines. Even though it’s a learned skill swimming is a low-impact activity. Once in the water, the buoyancy does not only support your whole body but also reduces the risk of spinal injury. It’s an ideal form of workout, especially for the elderly.

d) Nutrition
Regardless of your physical health goals, proper nutrition is the backbone. It is essentially what fuels fitness. It’s unavoidable. It’s also advisable to insist on a balanced diet. This entails a good mix of carbohydrates, vegetables, vitamins, proteins, complex proteins and fats such as chicken and fish among others. When not home, you can try a pack of homemade snacks and or soy nuts.
e) Cycling
One more thing you could try is cycling. It’s a weight-bearing activity that is also gentle on your joints. Cycling helps burn calories, improves cardiovascular activity, and strengthens your limps.

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